Naar wat ben je naar op zoek?

Specific to a “disorder” in this sense is that the trait in question is rigid and thus difficult to modify.
In contrast, personality traits that are strong are “easier” to change.

Often people claim, ‘I am the way I am. I can’t change that’

Walsha Persoonlijkheid 250

This is not true. People are able to behave significantly differently in life. The most important condition is that you want this yourself. The fear that one will become a completely different person is therefore a step too far. The main thing is to take a few steps in the other direction in the spectrum of your personal characteristic. As a rule of thumb, change 20% of your behavior has an 80% beneficial effect on your well-being.

Walsha Glasreflectie 250

It is often wrongly assumed that personality determines behavior. However, this is a misconception and also renders us powerless. In practice, however, personality is determined together with the situation, context, time, and the interactions between the different parameters. It is therefore not possible to predict unambiguously which personal trait will lead to which behaviour. This is exactly what creates the opportunity to introduce behavioural changes which will make it easier for you as a person to obtain joy and pleasure in life.

Facing results of a personality assessment is often confronting. In psychology, no test is an absolute truth and often context dependent. As a result, correct interpretation is an important first step.

Counseling focuses heavily on installing new coping behaviors.

First, it is important to identify and address the positive effects. When applied correctly, these positive effects can help you as an adult in certain areas.

Next, it is important to understand where well-being is not enough for you. We explore that which is important to you. So this will make you happier.
After identifying what you care about, we identify the relationships that your current behavior entails.
With the necessary psychoeducation, we indicate which behavioral changes will yield better results for you. And now especially practice, practice, and practice.

For some people, understanding the cause or origin is important. In that case, we will analyze together where it comes from. We do this by looking primarily at your past and your lifeline. Understanding situational factors is a useful thing.

Behavior is strongly co-determined by traits such as emotion regulation, the emotions you experience, ge self-image, your self-confidence and others. Insights into these provide tools to change your current behavior to newer and more constructive behavior.

These conversations may take place, with your permission, in the presence of a confidant (partner, parent, close friend or person involved). Acceptance and awareness takes some time. So we give this the space it needs.

For counseling children and adolescents, it is a strict condition for Walsha that both parents (and plus parents where necessary) are willing to actively participate in the counseling process.

With children, we do not work directly on personality. The personality as a whole is still developing. However, we do work with traits such as emotion regulation, your perception, your impulsivity and so on.

We work on the same topics as with adults. The main difference is in the methodology and techniques that will be adapted to the age of the child. Destructive or non-helpful patterns are uncovered, new skills are taught so that the child learns to respond differently to certain situations. As a result, the child rediscovers himself, his talents and his potential and learns to be the best he can be.

To this end, various therapeutic techniques are combined, tailored to the child’s age. This includes play therapeutic, relaxation and behavioral work.

Attention is also paid to the various contexts in which the child or young person engages, namely the family (and wider family), school and any external activities.

Most effective is working on-site for such things as focused observations, experiential exchanges, psychoeducation and providing tools to respond appropriately to the child’s (problem) behavior.

The personality traits always have a direct and profound impact on the family. A counseling program is complete only when working with the entire family. With regard to insights into negative family dynamics, understanding personal frustrations, division of attention and so on, new interactions are discussed and implemented. We pay attention to the place each family member deserves and make sure destructive coalitions disappear. This is how the family will function most optimally.

Living with a partner with personality disorder is quite challenging. How does the personality disorder disorder affect your relationship? Should you just accept it or should you also do something with it? What to do and what better not to do? Know that your partner, too, is probably left with many unanswered questions. Psychoeducation is appropriate here, together or separately. Then we will work with you to create the desired change in the way the personality disorder becomes visible in your daily lives.

Where appropriate, we work with group sessions, which include exchanges of experience, recognition and new ideas.

Medication does not apply to personality.

Medication is only aimed at symptom relief.

Plan je afspraak in via ROSA,
het digitaal agendaplatform

ROSA online agenda